What is a female led relationship?
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Introduction
One thing you and your partner must never forget is that you are together because you work well as a couple. If something happens in life that needs you to work together: lost job, illness, family problems, the last thing you need is to also be in charge of him. A Sane FLR is a blend of partnership and female authority. Only fantasy has it going without exception. What is not a FLR
What is a FLR Is a relationship in which the female takes the lead by role swapping. Is a relationship in which the wife takes the dominant role. Is a relationship in which the partners respect each other. is a relationship where partners give continuous love and affection. Is a relationship where both partners make each other feel loved. Is a relationship where sex roles are swapped. is a relationship that does not follow any BS roles created by society. is a relationship that is based on team work. is a relationship based on love and trust. |
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So now that we are clear on what a FLR is and what is not, we can explore in depth the aspects of a female read relationship.
Often times I receive emails about couples asking me for guidelines and in talking to them I come to find out that they have been doing it all wrong. The reason being is that they have gathered the wrong information, mostly from websites that are aimed to satisfy the kink mind of males, material that is solely used as a masturbation tool. Nothing wrong with those sites but wrong to apply those same concepts to a real-life FLR.
Common misconceptions
This is the type of scenario you see in these adult websites, which their sole purpose is to stimulate the minds of men whose fantasy is to live such scenarios but after masturbation, such desire goes away. Those ideas can work well in the mind while they masturbate but in real life, they would not last more than a couple of days if they were to come reality. The idea of role swapping is exactly what implies, treat your husband as a husband in a typical relationship will treat his wife, with respect and love, showing constant affection and by doing nice things for him, just as a husband will do for his wife. It is okay to live out fantasies while in the room and during sex but a 24/7 deal will cause his and your brain to go on overdrive and burned out. If you begin your FLR based on the wrong principles, your relationship will last as long as his brain can maintain the fantasy alive, which in most cases will be no more than a week or two. He will retrieve and back to your routine life you will go, possibly without a chance of returning for a second try.
Now lets explore the different types and levels of a female led relationship
Often times I receive emails about couples asking me for guidelines and in talking to them I come to find out that they have been doing it all wrong. The reason being is that they have gathered the wrong information, mostly from websites that are aimed to satisfy the kink mind of males, material that is solely used as a masturbation tool. Nothing wrong with those sites but wrong to apply those same concepts to a real-life FLR.
Common misconceptions
- My husband is now 100% submitted to me and everything I say goes.
- My husband is my slave 24/7.
- I don't have to do anything for my husband.
- Only my feelings matter.
- What he says don't matter any more. and so on, the list go on.
This is the type of scenario you see in these adult websites, which their sole purpose is to stimulate the minds of men whose fantasy is to live such scenarios but after masturbation, such desire goes away. Those ideas can work well in the mind while they masturbate but in real life, they would not last more than a couple of days if they were to come reality. The idea of role swapping is exactly what implies, treat your husband as a husband in a typical relationship will treat his wife, with respect and love, showing constant affection and by doing nice things for him, just as a husband will do for his wife. It is okay to live out fantasies while in the room and during sex but a 24/7 deal will cause his and your brain to go on overdrive and burned out. If you begin your FLR based on the wrong principles, your relationship will last as long as his brain can maintain the fantasy alive, which in most cases will be no more than a week or two. He will retrieve and back to your routine life you will go, possibly without a chance of returning for a second try.
Now lets explore the different types and levels of a female led relationship
As I mentioned in the introduction, a female-led relationship is any relationship in which the female takes charge of the majority of the time. This can actually encompass a wide variety of relationship types. Typically, female-led relationships are divided into four categories ranging in severity, from low levels of controlling behavior to extreme levels of controlling behavior. Before we dive into the different levels of FLR and as I said before, and I will continue to say, you must understand that there is a big difference between a fantasy "a kink" and real FLR. A fantasy "kink" is just a play, something to do once in a while and for the most part, is only focus on the fantasy of the male and not so much of the female, it is effortless. On the other hand, a real FLR takes time, effort and it requires a lot of work and responsibility on the Female; it is a lifestyle that will bring many changes and sacrifices. It is like nothing you have experienced before. Take for instance the sacrifices and changes to change your eating habits from a meat eater to a vegan or vegetarian. A lot of people have tried it but not everyone has been successful at it.
Maybe because they have not had the discipline to do it or because they felt that it was just not for them. In like manner, a FLR is not for everyone and many people that have tried it retrieve it for a variety of reasons. A key element in this lifestyle is that unlike becoming vegan or vegetarian, here the sacrifice involves two people, two people that must be in tune with each other to make a FLR work. The paramount factor BEFORE entering into a FLR is that you both must know that real FLR will slowly move from the bedroom to the living room, to your entire home and will soon take over your outside life, it will transform your life and it will have an impact on those you love and the people around you, but not in the way described in porn-sites or adult blogs. Although as a general rule the male will have a submissive role once entering into a FLR, it is always a good thing to set perimeters. What I mean by perimeters is that there should be markers if you will, a set period in which you both discuss the progress of your FLR, and you both which to continue and advance onto the next level of the relationship.
Once again, look out for misinformation out on the web with respect to this lifestyle, mostly aimed towards the "kink" "fantasy" aspect of it and not the reality of a FLR. There is also a lot of information and sites dedicated to specific aspects of a FLR. These sites again are mainly aimed to feed the kinkiness and sexual desires of individuals and are mainly masturbating material for males; although I have to admit there are couples that are really dedicated to only one or a couple of the aspects that take place in a FLR, one example is cuckold couples, or domination and sissification, etc.
Let’s take a look at a brief outline of those levels:
Since level 1 does not really apply to a real "FLR" lifestyle, since most of these individuals are doing it without even knowing that they are engaging in such behavior. No other reference about this level will be offered on this site, we will rather focus on levels 2 to 5, the ones that matter.
Maybe because they have not had the discipline to do it or because they felt that it was just not for them. In like manner, a FLR is not for everyone and many people that have tried it retrieve it for a variety of reasons. A key element in this lifestyle is that unlike becoming vegan or vegetarian, here the sacrifice involves two people, two people that must be in tune with each other to make a FLR work. The paramount factor BEFORE entering into a FLR is that you both must know that real FLR will slowly move from the bedroom to the living room, to your entire home and will soon take over your outside life, it will transform your life and it will have an impact on those you love and the people around you, but not in the way described in porn-sites or adult blogs. Although as a general rule the male will have a submissive role once entering into a FLR, it is always a good thing to set perimeters. What I mean by perimeters is that there should be markers if you will, a set period in which you both discuss the progress of your FLR, and you both which to continue and advance onto the next level of the relationship.
Once again, look out for misinformation out on the web with respect to this lifestyle, mostly aimed towards the "kink" "fantasy" aspect of it and not the reality of a FLR. There is also a lot of information and sites dedicated to specific aspects of a FLR. These sites again are mainly aimed to feed the kinkiness and sexual desires of individuals and are mainly masturbating material for males; although I have to admit there are couples that are really dedicated to only one or a couple of the aspects that take place in a FLR, one example is cuckold couples, or domination and sissification, etc.
Let’s take a look at a brief outline of those levels:
- Level One: Low Level Female Control
- Level Two: Moderate Level Female Control
- Level Three: Formal Control
- Level Four: Defined Control
- Level Five: Final Control
Since level 1 does not really apply to a real "FLR" lifestyle, since most of these individuals are doing it without even knowing that they are engaging in such behavior. No other reference about this level will be offered on this site, we will rather focus on levels 2 to 5, the ones that matter.
Level one is obviously the most relaxed level. This level tends to encompass relationships in which the female makes the majority of the decisions and has low levels of control over the man in her life. Oftentimes, female-led relationships in this level are not decided on but are instead defined by a particular woman’s natural desire for control and a particular man’s natural desire to be submissive. This is also the relationship level some men may find themselves in unwittingly. A man in this sort of relationship may find that he’s not happy with the role he’s playing. May also operate as a sort of introduction to higher levels of control. A woman may start out by trying to control the man in her life with simple gestures that may go unnoticed. She may try to get him to wear the clothes she wants him to wear. She may try to get him to eat the things she wants him to eat. The controlling behavior may get more severe as she tries to test the boundaries. Most females in this type of relationship control and manipulate their husbands but they get nothing in return because these men are unhappy in their sex life. The majority of males in relationships like this masturbate quite often, which helps them lift up their mood. These types of couples on average have sex once a month. They both live unsatisfactory sex life. The man may find that he enjoys it or he may push back. At that point, the situation will need to be discussed if the relationship is to continue.
Level one relationships are also very common with men who are curious about female-led relationships but haven’t yet decided to commit fully to the lifestyle or may not even know that there is such a lifestyle. They may try to ask their wives or girlfriends to take on a more commanding role in the relationship if there is such open communication in their relationship. If the woman is open to it, she may be willing to head in that direction. If she isn’t, the man will need to decide how much he wants this kind of relationship and decide whether or not this is the right relationship for him. Because this level is almost irrelevant to a real FLR, there is no further reference in this site. We will focus on levels 2 through 5.
Level two is where most of the couples that enter this lifestyle dive in from. This is where most couples start out, as a form of play with the introduction of chastity-play. Chastity play isn't something new. It has actually been around for centuries. The practice of chastity play involves denying yourself sexual stimulation and giving control of your sexual needs to someone else. This someone else is also known as the key holder.
Chastity play can have different meanings for each person who participates and those meanings can be very personal. Whether it's the relationship between submissive to their key holder, willingness and desire of both to please each other, or to give or receive more meaningful orgasms, each person can have a very unique experience during chastity play.
Chastity play is not about total abstinence as many might think. It's about prolonged orgasms and giving up sexual control so you don't know when or if your key holder will allow you an orgasmic release. People who engage in chastity play don't always have sex once released from their chastity device. There are other ways to reach sexual satisfaction. It can be about pleasuring yourself while your key holder watches then locks you back up in your chastity device afterward. The possibilities are endless!
Start things off slowly
Start off slowly at first with chastity play. It's a new experience and I recommend only one or two days of being locked in your chastity device, to begin with. This allows your private areas to adjust to the chastity device, as it can be very irritating at first for some.
Once your key holder releases you and allows you pleasure, he or she should lock you back into your chastity device. Make sure that you clean yourself along with your chastity device before putting it back on.
The Purpose of Chastity in FLR
Chastity play will set the stage for the next level, Anal Play, which can be introduced in as little as 1 to 3 weeks after chastity is implemented or it may take as long as a couple of months, it all depends on the time that it takes for your male to adjust and to realize that anal play will be the best way to get some sexual satisfaction. After reading this entire introduction go to the "ABOUT FLR" tap and read the information in each level from 2 to 5 and do it in order so that things make sense and to avoid confusion.
What to expect after chastity?
Usually a little bit of frustration on his side, this is why staring with anal is essential. We will go in the why a little later. You can expect him to wake up with painful morning erections. You can expect him to experience some discomfort during the first few days or a couple of weeks of wearing the device.
Level Three, is the introduction to anal play and sissification.
The benefits of sissifying him
Since level three introduces two forms of control we have divide them in to part "a" and part "b" but they are both implemented simultaneously for better result.
Level Four is the introduction to cuckolding and the establishment of the female's leader freedom. This begins by gradually going out with your girlfriends or even alone and leaving your now sissy husband home. This will include making your sissy help you get ready for your day/night out. This is an extremely delicate step and you must make sure that before entering into level four your sissy is completely submitted to you. Most wives report that on average it takes 8 months and I have to agree, however not all relationships are the same but one thing is for sure that almost all will be ready during the 1 year anniversary, in fact, it is highly recommended to use the 1 year anniversary to enter into level four but again it is all up to you.
Level Five, and the final of the Female Lead Relationship "FLR" is the sharing of your Sissy. Once you reach this level in your relationship you will come to find that there is no other type of relationship under the sun that will bring you more empowerment and satisfaction. By this time you are in total control of your relationship. Your husband is more of a wife to you and his only desire is to please you. He no longer has eyes for anyone else. You are now the center of his universe. Remember to read all the steps in order so that they make sense to you.
Remember to read all the levels on the "ABOUT FLR" drop bar from 2 to 5 in that order to avoid confusion or click on the link below.
Level one relationships are also very common with men who are curious about female-led relationships but haven’t yet decided to commit fully to the lifestyle or may not even know that there is such a lifestyle. They may try to ask their wives or girlfriends to take on a more commanding role in the relationship if there is such open communication in their relationship. If the woman is open to it, she may be willing to head in that direction. If she isn’t, the man will need to decide how much he wants this kind of relationship and decide whether or not this is the right relationship for him. Because this level is almost irrelevant to a real FLR, there is no further reference in this site. We will focus on levels 2 through 5.
Level two is where most of the couples that enter this lifestyle dive in from. This is where most couples start out, as a form of play with the introduction of chastity-play. Chastity play isn't something new. It has actually been around for centuries. The practice of chastity play involves denying yourself sexual stimulation and giving control of your sexual needs to someone else. This someone else is also known as the key holder.
Chastity play can have different meanings for each person who participates and those meanings can be very personal. Whether it's the relationship between submissive to their key holder, willingness and desire of both to please each other, or to give or receive more meaningful orgasms, each person can have a very unique experience during chastity play.
Chastity play is not about total abstinence as many might think. It's about prolonged orgasms and giving up sexual control so you don't know when or if your key holder will allow you an orgasmic release. People who engage in chastity play don't always have sex once released from their chastity device. There are other ways to reach sexual satisfaction. It can be about pleasuring yourself while your key holder watches then locks you back up in your chastity device afterward. The possibilities are endless!
Start things off slowly
Start off slowly at first with chastity play. It's a new experience and I recommend only one or two days of being locked in your chastity device, to begin with. This allows your private areas to adjust to the chastity device, as it can be very irritating at first for some.
Once your key holder releases you and allows you pleasure, he or she should lock you back into your chastity device. Make sure that you clean yourself along with your chastity device before putting it back on.
The Purpose of Chastity in FLR
Chastity play will set the stage for the next level, Anal Play, which can be introduced in as little as 1 to 3 weeks after chastity is implemented or it may take as long as a couple of months, it all depends on the time that it takes for your male to adjust and to realize that anal play will be the best way to get some sexual satisfaction. After reading this entire introduction go to the "ABOUT FLR" tap and read the information in each level from 2 to 5 and do it in order so that things make sense and to avoid confusion.
What to expect after chastity?
Usually a little bit of frustration on his side, this is why staring with anal is essential. We will go in the why a little later. You can expect him to wake up with painful morning erections. You can expect him to experience some discomfort during the first few days or a couple of weeks of wearing the device.
Level Three, is the introduction to anal play and sissification.
The benefits of sissifying him
- No more “alpha male” bullshit. He’ll be nice, won’t cheat and won’t take advantage of you.
- He’ll pay attention to you.
- Will become more sensitive, honest and respectful.
- He will willingly do house chores
- He will become a great pussy eater.
- And essentially he’ll obey you in every possible way
Since level three introduces two forms of control we have divide them in to part "a" and part "b" but they are both implemented simultaneously for better result.
Level Four is the introduction to cuckolding and the establishment of the female's leader freedom. This begins by gradually going out with your girlfriends or even alone and leaving your now sissy husband home. This will include making your sissy help you get ready for your day/night out. This is an extremely delicate step and you must make sure that before entering into level four your sissy is completely submitted to you. Most wives report that on average it takes 8 months and I have to agree, however not all relationships are the same but one thing is for sure that almost all will be ready during the 1 year anniversary, in fact, it is highly recommended to use the 1 year anniversary to enter into level four but again it is all up to you.
Level Five, and the final of the Female Lead Relationship "FLR" is the sharing of your Sissy. Once you reach this level in your relationship you will come to find that there is no other type of relationship under the sun that will bring you more empowerment and satisfaction. By this time you are in total control of your relationship. Your husband is more of a wife to you and his only desire is to please you. He no longer has eyes for anyone else. You are now the center of his universe. Remember to read all the steps in order so that they make sense to you.
Remember to read all the levels on the "ABOUT FLR" drop bar from 2 to 5 in that order to avoid confusion or click on the link below.