We did 4 months in chastity, anal training and some sissification. I enjoyed it but I guess I was not too into it as he would've wanted me to. After I unlocked him for a shower he just didn't put the cage back on and I really didn't mind. I guess it was my fault because I didn't encourage him to continue but now that is been a little over 2 months that he is off the chastity he has become more bossy, even rude and I really miss the way he was when he was locked. I have tried to put him back in the cage but he refuses, I have tried to play with the strap on and he says he doesn't feel like it. I don't know if it is hes refusal but I now want to get him back in the chastity more than ever. He even let his mustache grow. I constantly think about ways to seduce him into it and it hasn't work but I know that he really wants it. I really miss being in control and him pleasing my every desire. Please any advice on how to get him back on track and into sissy mode.
I went through the same thing I learned my lesson really quick after I got them back in the Shasta became more of a bitch offer the morning control. I understand of this lifestyle is not for everyone but for the girl that enjoys being in control this is completely empowering.
I am not sure how to get him back into the cage if he does not want to. Have you tried talking to him about what went wrong and then work on ways together to fix the issues you both had.
That sounds so familiar. My husband tried that when we first started. That was 5 years ago. Like you although I was really interested in many aspects of flr I was not too into it when it came to daily task, you know, being bossy to him and in control or sticking to his daily pegging and sissification. I just thought it was too much. Anyways, my advice to you is to begin with little but persistent things like, calling him your girl or your bitch, even more during sex, taking control in bed, play with his nipples and when touching his penis remind him how small it is. Refer to his penis as his clitoris do it as often as you can. Don't push pegging too much, if you can avoid it, instead use your fingers to play with his ass. About his mustache tell him you don't like it, you like to feel his smooth skin. Be persistent. He will eventually give in because think about it, if you guys started this in the first place it was because more than likely he brought it up to you, so he does want it. But once you get that chastity on him again don't make the same mistake, don't ever take it off unless for emergency situations. He should remain in it until you accomplish your goal. Make him your pretty, submissive sissy. I learned my lesson the hard way. It took me almost 5 months to get my hubby back on the right path. :) GOOD LUCK.
I think their testosterone levels get up after they are off the chastity. That is why they become more rude and defiant. My husband did just that. I even think he started acting more like an alpha male after we stop the chastity and little by little we stop everything. He was more in control during sex and I did liked it but once you test the power of being in control i think is difficult to leave it behind. I too was missing being in control and the possibility of cuckolding him one day although i didn't think i was ready at that moment. My advice for the girls that are new at this, DO NOT LET HIM OUT, and whatever you do DO NOT STOP being in control. It is so hard to start again once you stop.
It is always a big strugle once they are out of their chastity after a prolonge period, lets say over 40 days. In my case he made it to 92 days without any release other than with a strap-on. Everything was going great and I felt so empowered. Unfortunately, at about 2 1/2 months into it I kind of relaxed a little and was not putting as much effort, I think I failed to keep him on the edge and to be honest I though I didn't have to put as much effort any more. It wasn't long after that, that he begin complaining of my lack of attention. One night I came home from work and he was getting out of the shower and to my surprise he was not wearing his chastity. I said "what do you think you are doing?" "why are you wearing your cage?" He looked at me and said "I took it off, we are not playing this silly game anymore, I am tire of it". Well that once about 5 months ago and he is back to his old ways of rudeness and alfa male bull shit. I have tried to persued him to start again but no luck so far. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas I will really appriciate it. I need to get him back on it and work him all the way to at least cuckolding.
If you'd rather be with someone else, say, not an jerk, then be with someone who's not a jerk.
All of you are really stupid people.
We have a slightly different process, and were still able to get to cuckolding stage. Perhaps this can work better for some. My husband is in chastity only short term periods, usually for a few days before and after I am with my bull, which I do fully control the frequency of. But on occasion, we are basically a vanilla couple, he gets to do his alpha thing, we are all human, and have complex needs. And I need a change of pace too, I still want the wonderful MAN, who I fell in love with, to be the Husband that I can admire and respect, not some sissy on permanent drug therapy, who is ultimately going to realize his life is ruined. That said, he has given me complete control to manage the frequency and nature of our dynamic. The process took a few months, started with me taking control during sex, first occasionally, then always. If he wanted it to continue, if he wanted to cum, he was to do what he was told, take verbal humiliation, eventually anal, eating his own cum, etc. Once that dynamic was firmly established, he became to associate his sexual pleasure with his own submissiveness, I took complete control of his orgasms, we experimented with chastity cages, never longer than a couple of weeks at a time, but i stimulated him enough mentally and physically to make it count! He was let out only on my terms, he knew better than to ask. Cuckolding, which was my ultimate goal, came easy. I wanted him to ask me to sleep with other men, so I introduced the idea slowly, gradually bringing the idea into our humiliation play, and creating another association with his pleasure. He eventually admitted that this was now his fantasy that he wanted to come true, but I told him it will not happen unless he tells me this when he is out of chastity and drained of his cum. This took months, he would keep changing his mind, and then asked again after a week or so in chastity. But eventually he did! :). The rest, as they say, is history. So for anyone not having much luck, try this approach. I’d say - the end result is even better, I have the best if both worlds with a husband I can still respect as a man. Good luck!
As females we are enpowered to rule, but our will-powered has been dormant for far too long; time to wake up.