Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name] We just started a full week of chastity after couple of weeks of trying one or two days and taking it off at night. My husband has woken up the past two nights with a lot of pain begging me to take it off, the first night I didn't but last night I felt really bad for him and I took it off. Did I do the right thing by taking it off? Now he wants me to take it off every night but I don't know if I should. Please help.
Answer: First of all, you did the right thing by not removing it the first night he complained, this will allow him to experience a little pain and will trigger his brain to make a connection (erection=pain). Second, you did the right thing by removing it the second night, you don't want him to immediately be discourage to continue with the chastity. My suggestion is that for a week or two you live it one night-on one night-off and increase to two nights-on and one night-off until he can handle a straight week. Once he can achieve a week he will be okay.
Answer: First of all, you did the right thing by not removing it the first night he complained, this will allow him to experience a little pain and will trigger his brain to make a connection (erection=pain). Second, you did the right thing by removing it the second night, you don't want him to immediately be discourage to continue with the chastity. My suggestion is that for a week or two you live it one night-on one night-off and increase to two nights-on and one night-off until he can handle a straight week. Once he can achieve a week he will be okay.
Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name] My husband complaints that it hurts too much when I do him with the strap on. I have tried more lubrication and more foreplay but it does not seem to help much, any advice?
Answer: Dear first consider the size of the dildo you are using, most of the time that the size is reason for the painful intercourse. Try to start with a small size and gradually increase. However if you are using a small size dildo as a strap on, I suggest to play more with your fingers, beginning with one and increasing to two and three. Also try not to go all the way in, slow strokes will also help in getting him use to the new feeling.
Answer: Dear first consider the size of the dildo you are using, most of the time that the size is reason for the painful intercourse. Try to start with a small size and gradually increase. However if you are using a small size dildo as a strap on, I suggest to play more with your fingers, beginning with one and increasing to two and three. Also try not to go all the way in, slow strokes will also help in getting him use to the new feeling.
Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name] I heard that prolong chastity can increase the risk for cancer but I read in your site that it reduces the risk, I am confused, which one is it?
Answer: My dear, prolong used of chastity without release, that is without milking your man will increase his risk of prostate cancer, this is why it is important to stimulate his prostate using your dildo or strap-on dildo to make his semen flow out. This will keep his prostate in good health and thereby reduce his risk of cancer.
Answer: My dear, prolong used of chastity without release, that is without milking your man will increase his risk of prostate cancer, this is why it is important to stimulate his prostate using your dildo or strap-on dildo to make his semen flow out. This will keep his prostate in good health and thereby reduce his risk of cancer.
Member Question: Rita Love - Some times I just don't feel like doing any of this chastity thing or the whole female leader and I feel bad telling my husband I don't want him to give me oral sex or I simply don't want to do anything because when I do, I can see that it upsets him. Any suggestions?
Answer: Dear Rita, it is normal to feel this way some times. We females are not so sexually driven as males are. When you feel like this just talk to your husband and tell him that you are not feeling too well that day and you just want to rest. There is no need for more explanations. If you continue to feel this way the following day, I suggest you push yourself to do something different.
Answer: Dear Rita, it is normal to feel this way some times. We females are not so sexually driven as males are. When you feel like this just talk to your husband and tell him that you are not feeling too well that day and you just want to rest. There is no need for more explanations. If you continue to feel this way the following day, I suggest you push yourself to do something different.
Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name] We been doing this FLR for 3 months now and I pretty much like most of the things involved however one thing that I still can't get around is the thing about my husband penetrating me with a fake penis or strap on. The feeling is just weird and not real, is there anything that you recommend?
Answer: My dear, I hear you, at the beginning of my journey I was just like you, I didn't like the way it felt, the sensation it gave me, the coldness of it, the hardness of it, I just couldn't enjoy it. After searching about that topic and asking other girls I found that there are some dildos with a more realistic feeling, they cost a lot more money but they are worth it. Although no dildo will ever replace the feeling of a real penis these more realistic ones will definitely help. In my case it helped closing my eyes and not touching it with my hands prior to my husband penetrating me. Also my husband would put it between his legs for a couple of minutes to make it a little warmer. Although there are girls that don't mind a cheaper type of dildo, other girls are much more sensitive and you seem to be one of them. Try buying a cyber skin strap on dildo and give it a try.
Answer: My dear, I hear you, at the beginning of my journey I was just like you, I didn't like the way it felt, the sensation it gave me, the coldness of it, the hardness of it, I just couldn't enjoy it. After searching about that topic and asking other girls I found that there are some dildos with a more realistic feeling, they cost a lot more money but they are worth it. Although no dildo will ever replace the feeling of a real penis these more realistic ones will definitely help. In my case it helped closing my eyes and not touching it with my hands prior to my husband penetrating me. Also my husband would put it between his legs for a couple of minutes to make it a little warmer. Although there are girls that don't mind a cheaper type of dildo, other girls are much more sensitive and you seem to be one of them. Try buying a cyber skin strap on dildo and give it a try.
Member Question: Amanda5 - For couples who are really into the FLR do you feel there are any issues with their own sexual orientation?
Answer: I do know of a few women who include third partners, both male and female. The key is that if she controls sex, then he is at her mercy if he agreed to unconditional surrender she could change his orientation as she wishes.
Answer: I do know of a few women who include third partners, both male and female. The key is that if she controls sex, then he is at her mercy if he agreed to unconditional surrender she could change his orientation as she wishes.
Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name] Does this type of relationship start off in the bedroom with sexual fun play or does it start differently? I think it would be easier to keep it just sex at first. Or, is it usually a day that is set up to get into the role play? He cooks the meal, and then you both move into the bedroom?
Answer: It usually begins as a play in the bedroom and it is usually the male who brings up the idea or some elements of it to the female. Although some comes have started it by first having a talk about it, in my experience it is easier for the females if they first test the waters as a role play in the bed room.
Answer: It usually begins as a play in the bedroom and it is usually the male who brings up the idea or some elements of it to the female. Although some comes have started it by first having a talk about it, in my experience it is easier for the females if they first test the waters as a role play in the bed room.
Member Question: [Requested not to disclose name]I want to know about punishment in relationships, the physical kind. He wants it and I am reluctant. Why would I want to do this? Does he really want me to treat him like that?
Answer: You want to do this because it works and yes he really wants you to treat him like that. It seems to me that you have not read our section on punishment, please do so, there is a lot of information there about this. However the moment you find out that he is enjoying the corporal punishment you have to find alternative ways to punish him.
Answer: You want to do this because it works and yes he really wants you to treat him like that. It seems to me that you have not read our section on punishment, please do so, there is a lot of information there about this. However the moment you find out that he is enjoying the corporal punishment you have to find alternative ways to punish him.